"how to win a swedish guy's heart"

The next installment of my discussion on Swedish and American guys...

Something I didn't anticipate when I first posted anything about Swedish guys and girls was what would happen when that post went out into the world wide web. In my site analytics I can sometimes tell what google search words lead to entering this Stockholm Stories page.

And let me tell you something... there are people around the world searching for answers and information about the mysterious creatures that are Swedish males.
The title of this post was one such google search query. I felt for the person that did the search... I understand the feeling of doing an internet search for something that there are probably no true answers for, but trying anyway.

So who is trying and what do they want to know? Some examples...

Germany ("what are swedish guys like")
Norway ("how to get a swedish guy to fall for you")
The Netherlands ("learn more about swedish boys")
New Zealand ("swedish guys who are they")
Thailand ("when a swedish guy tells you how he feels")
Estonia ("things swedish guys like")
USA ("do swedish guys like american girls" and "do swedish men love american women" and "swedish boys vs american")
and then from Amsterdam to Hong Kong to Sydney to San Francisco to Bucharest to Barcelona to London to several right here in Stockholm, just the simple search "swedish guys".

I am not sure what the worldwide rank of most internet searches by male nationality is, and if Swedes are high on that. But I have a feeling now that they are up there. Swedes are impressive travelers, no matter where you go you will find a Swede, as I have on a plane to Uganda or when river rafting in New Zealand, and then of course there were a few in Santa Barbara. So they get around. And clearly, they leave an impression.

Am I qualified to answer any of the searches from above? I can't claim that. But I do think a lot about people and how they work in general, I've read a lot of what people with experience are writing on the topic, and I guess that I and countless girls that I know have what adds up to quite a bit of experience with Swedish guys. A couple weeks before I ever even moved to Sweden, my friends and I were hanging out with a couple Norwegian guys we'd met, and as we all talked and they heard a bit about what my last two years had looked like, they tried to call me a "Swedenizer". I protested and defended myself, saying that yes I was moving to Sweden and had dated and known some Swedes but I was not limited to only that or trying only for that. Then they pointed to what I was wearing. I looked down. Damn.

It was a bright blue dress with a yellow belt and shoes. Exactly the colors of the Swedish flag. I laughed helplessly. Arguing in that moment was futile.

The point is, I will speak of my observations as best as I can at this point, knowing that I am no expert, and accepting that I am generalizing. So, in reference to some of those searches...

What are Swedish guys like?
They are polite and reserved. When sober. When drunk, they are a bit rowdy and don't think anything of bumping into girls or pushing past them to get where they're going.
They love to dance and sing almost more than any guys I've met from any country.
They are affectionate. And really tender towards and about children.
Many of them know how to cook. They are well dressed.
When you talk to them, their facial expressions reveal more of what they are thinking than non-Swedish guys. There is little "small talk expressiveness" that you would find in a conversation with an American, but I can more easily read the overall feeling and interest that a guy has about a conversation and me in Sweden when we talk.
They will check you out more easily than the guys I've grown up around in California, but unlike the men who do that in Latin America or somewhere, they won't say or do anything about it.
They, to me, seem a bit vulnerable at times. At least compared to what I know growing up in California. I don't really know how to explain this one yet.
Swedish guys are hard to read emotionally (sounds like it contradicts with the earlier point above, but now I'm talking about them more in depth), they are conflicted, and they can tend to have a hard time making the first move, and they are proud (like all Swedes, and me).

I hear over and over again from Swedish and non-Swedish girls that Swedish guys are just more confused in general. I've heard these girls say a million times to each other, themselves, me, etc. "forget figuring him out, he's Swedish." But I don't think that's the fairest blanket statement, since I know Swedish guys who aren't confused or confusing and American guys who are. I've asked a Swedish girl friend before if she thought, with all her travels and dating that she's done, if she agreed with that broad stereotype. She said, "I think that in Sweden, it's not as valued, at least compared to some other countries, especially the US, to be super sure of yourself and what you're doing. Wavering or putting off a decision for awhile or leaving things mentally tangled up is more accepted here, so Swedish guys do that in romance and don't think that it's a turn off. But as far as men everywhere go, they are probably all as equally confused inside, it's just that Swedish guys go ahead and act that way." I thought that was an interesting answer.

When a Swedish guy tells you how he feels...
Oh, does that happen? Probably, occasionally, with some of them. ;)
But I believe that Swedish men are more of an 'actions over words' breed, and that they aren't exactly cultured to know how to express what they feel very well. Saying exactly what you want and feel is not exactly a Swedish cultural value in general. A Swedish girl one time saw a message that a Swedish guy had written to a girl that said very directly "I think you are interesting, fun, pretty and I want to get to know you better." She was shocked and asked if he was really Swedish and thought that the message was actually over the top, too much. I laughed... no wonder other Swedish guys would avoid saying such direct things, if many girls here would consider it to be too much. I thought what the guy said was refreshingly straightforward. But being subtle is more the way to go here, it seems.

Things Swedish guys like...
You know what would make my answer here more interesting is if I hold back on my usual diplomacy. I don't love stereotypes. But they often come from somewhere, while still being, to many, unfair. So here, I'm going to be quite unfair for a minute. And not just to Swedish guys.

American guys? They like to wear baseball hats and too-loose pants. They like sports, almost obsessively. They like nice/big cars. They like victory.
California guys? They like to find personal success, create something, be someone. They like skinny girls... skinny equals hot. And they really like (love) California. Much more than your average person likes where they are from, and more than people who go there to live for awhile from another state.
Swedish guys? They like hair products. They like soccer. They don't like women's soccer. They like boats. They like meat. They like (love) alcohol. And they like Swedish girls. Really. They think, like many people in the world point out to them, that their country has the best looking and best dressed girls around, and they sometimes discuss when abroad how the local population just doesn't compare, and feel relieved when they get back to Sweden. And along with this, they really like (love) Sweden. Like the Californians, they can't picture anything other than ending up in this beloved country of theirs, nothing beats it. After plenty of world travel of course, which they also like. Swedish girls are the same on those two counts. That makes things convenient.

Finally... Do Swedish guys like American girls?
Well, to some extent, yes.
Swedes may take issue with a lot of things about America, but at the core they are fascinated by the country, have grown up knowing much more about it than we in the States know about any other country. Visiting the States is always on the travel list for almost every Swede I know. So often, Swedes may be more interested in meeting Americans than someone from some other countries. And particularly if you live here, it's not hard to get attention as an American girl, which is a rare find, and add to that being from California, it's downright fascinating. I've heard before when the conversation is not about me... "oh he has an American girlfriend actually" with a ever-so-slight hint of being impressed. It's familiar but still sort of exotic.
And Swedes love exotic things. There is quite a degree of homogeneity in Sweden, so sometimes it's fun for them to do or see something or date someone different. For a short time.
And then I will refer you to my point just before this. That more than the exotic, Swedes like what they know, and what they know is Sweden. Most of them believe, although they may trash talk their country and even their people sometimes, that living here is the best, and that Swedes are the awesomest. So, if I may quote a Swedish guy I know who once lived in the States... "I tried dating American girls while I was there. Where I lived there was plenty of good-looking ones. But you know what, girls in general are confusing, so if they are from your same culture it's easier since it's less confusing, you can read them better. And I know I want to live in Sweden in the future. So, I ended up dating a couple Swedes that I met when I was in the States. Couldn't help it."

Those of you who search the internet to figure out how to win a Swedish guy's heart, it won't tell you there. And I don't exactly know what to say either, since I don't think I've ever done it. And like the winning of anyone's heart, there aren't guidelines.

You know what you should figure out though, if you haven't already? How someone can win your heart. You aren't just a German girl, a Spanish woman, a Swedish girl, or a California girl. You are an individual and stereotypes may not apply. You deserve to have someone try to win your heart as much as any goodlooking tall blond guy does. Maybe more.

Comments

  1. You are very good at discussing this Corrine!

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  2. you know what, you right.. I know a Swede guy, and now that I've read this and others... whatever, I'm not interested in a guy like that! He is just too Swedish! I've met guys from different cultures and none of them drove me more crazy than this one. It's very hard to deal with him and I thought that Germans were proud.
    This Swede guy can be very polite but at the same time very rude to me, even if he's not intend to, just because his culture. It's hard to say if he's flirting or not because in a minute he might be but the next one he turns around without a word... and it's hard to approach him too. little I knew about his culture... now that I know that he's 95% culture and 5% his own thinking, honestly what a waste! Even though he's very interesting. I don't doubt he's going to return to his country to end up with a Swedish woman.
    Very interesting article.

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    1. He is flirting with you and he trying not to typical swede

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  3. This is such a nice article about those Swedes. I didn't have that much knowledge about their culture until I have met and hung out with a few of them for quite a time when they had a trip here in the Philippines. Swedish men and women are far most the best people to go with (in my own opinion) even though I also have good friends who are French, Aussies, Brits, Americans...Israelis.. but I cannot explain especially when it comes to guys. There was this one Swedish who really "liked" me and nothing more than the like if you get me. He was more into actions; I always knew he was sincere but at the end of the day I knew he's just gonna go back to Sweden which was totally o-rite with me as I also had my own vacation in my own country. lol And when he returned to Sweden, a couple of days after, he told me he found a Swedish girl he happened to like. :) I didn't feel bad at all but it was such a good experience to get to know a Swedish guy like him. And yeah, sometimes they tend to be confusing.

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  4. Such a cool article. I am a Polish girl who is in love with a Swedish man. He is tall and blonde, so handsome... And I keep getting so much questions from Polish, Russian, Greek, Turkish, Italian girls about Swedish men, since I am experienced about it because I have been dating my Swedish man for 2 years.

    I will send this article to them :).

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    1. I have been communicating and talking with a Swede and he is enduring but is he for real? Wish I knew

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  5. Det här är helt sant. Tror också att kombinationen svensk kille - amerkiansk tjej kan vara ganska dynamisk. Amerikaner tenderar att vara ganska högljudda, spontana och säkra på sig själva vilket dock kan leda till kulturkrockar. Där kan vår alkoholkultur vara en bra utjämnare..

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  6. @Interesting opinion...
    Haha, helt rätt!

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  7. Hi Corrine! Great article and very helpful indeed. Especially the part about swedish men being confused and eing okay with 'being confused'. I really liked this Swede and for the life of me could not figure out why he would act the way he did (aka confused). Finally something that makes sense. Thank you !!!

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  8. Very familiar story, Jay! Glad it could help a bit!

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  9. i just fall by sweedish boy, but am asian girl i think sweedih guy don't like asian girl

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    1. YEs they love asian girls! I am asian and I do have swedish boyfriend. I need to do hard work to understand him more. lol

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    2. They like me..I live in Göteborg..

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    3. They like me..I live in Göteborg..

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  10. Your blog article is terrific.

    The Swede guy I know has been constantly flirting with me but he's also implying that there can be nothing definite between us. Oh I give up reading him, it feels like I'm misinterpreting his signals. He goes one step forward and two steps back. He has no idea how horrible he makes me feel. I knew it, he was trouble when we first met.

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  11. Your blog has been so helpful Corinne.

    I met this Swedish guy several years ago here in Mexico and we've been in contact via internet for about three years now. He has invited me to visit him to Sweden for about four times. And, now that I finaly decided to go to Gothenburg, I asked him for a pic of him, I mean I really would like to have one before going...anyways, the thing is that now I see that he is so Swedish, he had disappear for two months and I haven't got that pic from him :D Hubris! I won't text him and thanks a lot for your blog.

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  12. Man, these comments sound like little versions of stories I hear around Stockholm all the time! I'm sorry, you guys! Hope someone more straightforward and more deserving comes around soon :)

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  13. Hello. Your article was informative but a little depressing. I plan on moving to Sweden in a couple of years and in the excitement I was also looking forward to meeting some nice Swedish guys and testing the waters, however after reading this, it seems as if Swedish guys aren't into long-term relationships with American girls and that they would like to stick to other Swedes. I'm hoping that this isn't true for all of them.

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    1. There is two types Swedish boys. the city boy and the country boy .the city boy is mostly a player becuse he can. Find a Girl in seconds if he want. A country boy is Lucky if he can find a girl that havent been with any. other if he found that one he want to have her secure with a ring as fast as he can but he have to be sneeky so don run away becuse he is to fast ... Sorry for my English spelling

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    2. If you're still there is it true? The guy I've met in the U.S., asked me to come live with him in Stockholm to get to know me better and loves me. But sometimes he is so shy and freezes, then comes out with all his feelings at once; either extreme anger and jealousy or extreme affection and love.

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  14. Hi Corinne,
    I came across to read your article and found it very interesting. I've been living here for almost two years, still, I'm the newbies. All of my friends asked me, how come I'm still single and not dating any cute Swede guys. (well, you know the answer) I said "they are cute and nice and all. 'I just don't understand them Swedish guys." I guess we all have the same opinion on that one. Haha
    Thank you for a lovely article. :)
    Q

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  15. Hey Jessica! Don't be too pessimistic. Your hope is right, it's not true for all of them :)
    Several real life examples around me (and statistics) prove otherwise :)

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  16. Hi, yeah this is how I feel! I met this Sweden in LA and he was extremely nice. We texted a few times and then he visited the country where I live now (with his friends and not to see me exclusively) we hanged out 12 days and he and his friends very respectful, gentleman, well dressed, smart & you can notice the difference! He told me He liked me, used to hug me all the time when we went out, appreciated I went out with him and his friends. And at the end same story... He said " i think I'm giving mixed signals, I love you as friend" as I was pretty relaxed and cool down, I said I felt the same. He continue hugging me and saying he'd miss me. He doesnt text that often and he has never called. Had made plans to meet me again and travel together. And he has invited me to his country and I'm thinking about it, but Im not sure if I should run after this guy, amazing, good looking, great person but confusing and reserved. I dont know if Sweden guys are too conservative or what they think of a girl visits them in their country. I dont text or call him at all and this is too confusing! I dont know what to do! Any suggestion? Thanks! I loved the article! How to win a Swedish guy's heart!???

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  17. This is a cool blog...very honest:) its a bit depressing though how a lot of the guys can't express themselves because of their equality with the females in this country....its looked down upon and Odd whenever one man says what's on his mind.....its a bit sad to me. Perhaps they need to travel and explore outside of their country and feel more free with their emotions.....learn other cultures and feel more secure as men. But yes they are good dressers and amazing guys for the most part...... And great cooks:))

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  18. Swedish guys? They like hair products. (No I don't except for shampoo and balsam)
    They like soccer (I prefer Ice hockey, our national sport).
    They don't like women's soccer. (True, football is best played by men)
    They like boats. (Yes, and I love the water too)
    They like meat. (True)
    They like (love) alcohol. (True, but I do not drink myself drunk)
    And they like Swedish girls. Really. (True. Those foreign men (individuals) who trashtalk swedish women are just not made for them. However I love women from a lot of countries)

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  19. I just returned from 10 days split between Gothenburg and Stockholm, and a tremendous amount of time tindering interesting fellows. I didn't actually meet anyone, but am still talking to three guys. This is very helpful to keep in mind!

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  20. I just returned from 10 days split between Gothenburg and Stockholm, and a tremendous amount of time tindering interesting fellows. I didn't actually meet anyone, but am still talking to three guys. This is very helpful to keep in mind!

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  21. hi corinne thank you so much for this article its really awesome.uh ur right they are more in action than words.it makes me smile a bit but some is true coz i already dated a swedish guy.i wud say wen i meet this guy in real and be together for quiet short time.i consider myself lucky and blessed wid him.she treat me like a princess and we live in luxury for almost 2 weeks i almost say to myself that i can die nxt day for that experience.i never failed to say thank you lord for letting me know dis swedish guy..we might not sure wat tomorrows promise but i will never forget him for the rest of my life.( Costabella :) )

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  22. Awww. This all sums up what I am feeling right now, after dating a swede man. He was very interesting and I was swept away. Tall. Handsome. Welldressed . And we had a great conversations. But its totally hard to read between the lines. He said he likes me. But it seems he's very confused now. We were enthralled during our dates but now it seems nothing has happened. This is helpful and informative. Now, I know :)

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  23. Love this article! I can truly nip pick everybody's comments and relate them to the situation that I'm in right now. Sometimes I just feel like I'm trying too hard when I always, I repeat always start a conversation with this guy but can't resist. I can't resist because he sings sweet music to my ears( more like writes) every time we txt each other. Trying my very best not to invest too much time with him even though we have been talking for 3 months on and off. I guess I'm just enjoying the moment however there will be a time were I'll just have to cut myself away from him if things don't progress the way they should be and I'm not looking forward to that.

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  25. Hi ..nice blog , on Sweden guys ..but as you said they are confusing ..it's right ..they tend to be confusing ..others too !! Lol , I met a Sweden guy a month ago via net ..he was quiet polite ..still he is , and he had expressed his feeling ..like me n all blah Blah ..he wanna visit me asap, checking the dates ..finally he decided one date ..and the day before he was bout to fly ..he stopped chatting to me ..lol it was all of a sudden ..no reply nothing ..lol .,that's really confusing ��

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  26. I guess i'm a bit different then. I'm a Swedish man that do not really fall for our native girls. Sure they can be as lovely as a spring morning but i like more exotic women. I have always said i would do better with an American or a Australian girl. The article is not that way off when we talk about Swedish men and behavior. But come one, where in the world does a man actually make 100% sense? lol

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    1. So true. Although, culturally speaking people seem more reticent as opposed to how they would handle their emotions in other cultures. I'm a racially mixed, and multicultural woman who is American. One parent European, one parent Asian. My encounters with Swedish guys have been quite strange because I am more than confused. But as you said, men are quite confusing creatures. You men seem to operate in a different time zone.

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    2. I totally confused with a Swedish guy? As an American woman, I don't want to beat around the bush! Life is too short.

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  28. I have a question and i need some advice,
    I'm actually American and I'm talking to this Sweden guy and he kinda confuses me because I'll give him bucket loads of comments about how beautiful his smile is and he'll barely give me compliments on my face too, then yesterday we were Skyping and he said that he wished that i was laying next to him and that when he comes back to New York he's gonna rent out a hotel for us and we can spend a couple nights there and i don't know if he's only saying this stuff because he likes the way my body looks because before he was talking to me about how i had all the right curves in the right places and I'm so fucking confused. Also, are Sweden guys turned off by girls who curse because i curse a lot

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    1. You know, a lot of this "confusion" could be solved by actually talking to the guy and asking him. It will drive you crazy trying to figure things out yourself. I'm not claiming to be an expert in relationship advice but a lot of you seem really young and confused yourselves.

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  29. I must be the luckiest girl alive, because I'm about to travel to Sweden to be with the loveliest, most amazing and handsome Swedish man. I will admit that I initiated our first conversation, but at the time he was just someone I felt like talking to. It wasn't until much later that my feelings for him intensified. He doesn't seem as most Swedish men are described here; has expressed his love for me in a super adorable way and even hinted at marriage. He is not a city boy, but he is well-traveled and open-minded. He is a musician with the kindest heart. What I'm trying to say is, it is possible to meet a Swedish man that isn't confused about what he wants, or plays with a girl's heart. Or maybe that's the difference between a Swedish boy and a Swedish man?

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    1. This Swedish boy's name wouldn't happen to be David now would it?

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    2. No, and he is not a boy but rather a man (over 30).

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    3. Ok. What you described seemed an awful lot like my Swede who is actively pulling away from me more and more unfortunately. Just had to check

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    4. Oh, I'm sorry to hear. Maybe some people just need to know that they're wanted, or that the spark is still there. Worth a shot if you have strong feelings for someone. I know for sure that I'll never meet anyone quite like my Swedish man, so I hope to hang on to him forever.

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    5. You're very lucky. I could only hope for my Swede to come around and want me again. How long have you and yours been talking?

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    6. Since November last year. I do consider myself very lucky too. It started as a very casual conversation but then we quickly realised we actually had a lot in common. I've never fallen so hard for anyone else before, and I'm glad I didn't give up on all men to become a crazy cat lady!

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    7. Wow such a short time and yet long as well. I'm glad your guy still had interest in you even after the 6 week infatuation phase ended. I tend to see a trend where guys will be into a girl heavily until the 6 week mark where he loses interest or makes excuses for why he all of a sudden can't talk anymore as much

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    8. Some guys are such jerks huh. I think what works for us is that we both know that we are just 2 regular "boring" people that appreciate and support each other's talents. He's an excellent musician and I'm a chef. In our spare time we both enjoy the same things; gaming, vinyl collecting and tv/movies. We never really tried to impress each other but it just all fell into place.

      Hey I'm sure there will be another Swede for you who appreciates you for who you are. They are very honest, sweet and genuine (not to mention, very attractive!) when you find the right one.

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    9. Haha you sound a bit like me with the gaming and tv/movies thing

      This guy is super attractive, but displays the 'aloofness' that some Swedish men characteristically have. Sometimes I genuinely wonder what happened since he used to freely display his emotions and now he suppresses them to a point of lacking empathy and being very cold/distant

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    10. Chicks who like gaming are the best!

      That is strange. Have you tried asking him why he is acting that way? Or let him know how you feel about things? Was the relationship mostly based on attraction? I think these could all relate to how he's acting. Age/maturity is usually a factor too.

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    11. Gamer chicks do rule! Glad to know I'm on good company

      I have asked him and he told me rather abruptly not to read into things so much. He knows how I feel about him yet doesn't seem to care at all. The relationship was all attraction and at one point he was truly infatuated with me. Now he just seems bored when I want to talk to him. We are the same age with him being slightly younger so maybe age is a factor since I'm still young, but also very mature for my age

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    12. Ah, as I suspected. I'm sorry to say that when it's heavily based on attraction that judgement can easily be clouded. I may be a bit jaded because I've had guys come and go, and then ending up preferring my own company, but looks are no longer at the top of my list anymore. Of course looks still matter, but when you finally stumble across someone who is the whole package, you'll wonder why you were ever so hung up about this guy!

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    13. We did have an immense amount of attraction purely based on talking before we even saw what the other looked like. It became a bonus of sorts that we were both really attractive to the other, but then it only became about that. He kept telling me that I was perfect for him in every way and that he couldn't tell certain things to other people like he could with me. There were no boundaries about what we talked about and it was refreshing. I really did think he was "The One", but now his lack of interest in me anymore has started to turn me off from him. Not to sound conceited, but I like it when a man wants me and tells me that I'm beautiful. It at least lets me know where I stand with him

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    14. Perhaps he had been waiting for you to make a move? It's hard to say how I have been so successful with my Swedish man, because falling in love with him has been the easiest thing. We still talk everyday, even if it is just to catch up on how our day was and to say goodnight. My flight to Sweden is on Saturday and he's booked us a hotel in Stockholm so we can explore the city for the weekend.

      The previous guy who I almost fell in love with (a New Zealander) told me often how beautiful I was and we had a lot in common music-wise, but also quickly started to ignore me after a few months and I'm really glad that ended because this current guy is actually the best thing ever to happen to me.

      Well whether you still want it to work out with him or move on, I wish you the best of luck!

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    15. Thanks. Your love story sounds like magic and I'm happy for you. I'm sure you'll have a wonderful time in Sweden with your guy. Will you be moving there permanently soon and is this visit the first time you'll be meeting him in person? Let me know how it goes :)

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    16. Yes, this will be our first time meeting in person and we've discussed long term options but for now I can only make a brief visit (up to 90 days visa-free). My initial plan was to get a 1 year working holiday visa first, but it's taken them so long to process the visas I can't wait any longer! I'm really excited, not only to meet him but to learn a new culture and language and, as a chef, Scandinavian cuisine will be fascinating to me!

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    17. I heard the cuisine is very unique and because I was smitten with my guy I made the effort to learn the Swedish language as well which is a pretty difficult language to learn. Now it seems all for nothing

      I hope you do get your visas sorted out and have a great time finally meeting your dream guy and getting to spend quality time with him

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    18. So this is my fourth day here in Sweden now and it's been great! My man is so lovely and I'm very happy to be here :) I just wished I didn't have to leave.

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    19. You're so very lucky. I'd do anything to be in Sweden right now. I'm glad everything worked out for you

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    20. Just an update on my situation, I finally got my working holiday visa after waiting 8 months, and I've been living in Sweden since Feb this year. So a word of warning to anyone wanting to do the same thing as me, plan ahead! Sweden is lovely if you like being close to nature and don't mind a relaxed atmosphere. Stockholm is a bit shit and touristy and I've read about a few people having a really tough time living there. But about my Swedish man, it's still going great. We spend a lot of time together when he isn't at work, so it'll be a bit strange when I start my summer job away from this town. Only temporary though, and I'll be back to celebrate my first white Christmas in Sweden!

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  31. Oh my God! So it's a regular behavior to "disappear / be distant and cold"
    :'( I'M IN LOVE WITH A SWEDISH GUY who used to tell me I LOVE YOU and video call then suddenly he's so uninterested...

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  32. this is indeed interesting. i know a swede guy who expressed his attraction with me by initiating a conversation. he's way younger than i am but very nice and smart. he used to IM me on skype everyday then he just stopped.i guess, after reading this article, he's that typical swede who couldn't care less if you feel confused over his sudden change of heart. but i decided to let him be...there's plenty of fish in the sea :)

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  33. I met a swedish guy 2 months ago at the university. He used to look at me during the lectures but when I catched him he just scared. We never had a conversation until the end of the period.Then I managed to get his number and send him a message. I'm very shy as well so I just presented myself and asked him how he was? He answered me "I'm fine!how are you?" Then I answered "I'm fine as well". Since that we didn't talk anymore and I'm feeling so bad. If someone can give me advises she's very welcome.

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    1. I think they are shy and also they dont like you to be emotional.

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  34. I met a swed guy, been together fo about 6 months.. he is the best guy ive ever met. Polite and respectful. Loyal and commited. A bit unemotional but that ok.

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  35. Corinne får gärna översätta detta��
    Om vi får skäll av våra flickvänner så tar vi det för att sedan gå iväg o muttra och kanske klaga hos våra kompisar. Vi är uppfödda ( pojkar födda före 1980) att inte visa känslor och att inte tro att du är bättre än någon annan (jantelagen) därför tror jag att när kvinnor från andra länder söker en reaktion så funderar svensken istället på vad har jag gjort för fel.

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  36. yeah swede men are really attractive and handsome , I'm asian and I'm very much attracted to this young man the way he is.. I was captivated by his characteristics, which made me love him even more.. he said Im a very attractive asian woman, I'm wondering is it true that swede man likes asian? Im Filipino. btw I'm tan, lol. just to specify.

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  38. I met a Swedish man online, it is a long distance relationship for now. I have been reading a lot of these types of articles, and I'm quite confused. I read about how Swedish men are emotionally reserved and don't do much talking, nor do they pursue. But mine pursued me from the start. He started the conversation, we talked for hours and hours. He is also very affectionate in the sense that he tells me I'm beautiful and how when we finally see each other how he wants to hold me and kiss me, among other things. He was the first one to say I love you. He was also the first to talk about marriage and kids.

    I believe this is the kind of thing that can't be answered by an article, nor can stereotypes apply. It depends on the man and your relationship.

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